Why Do Thai Girls Have A Certain Reputation?
Unfortunately most male visitors only encounter Thai women in bars so they, get a rather a distorted view of what they are about. I am trying not to fall into the usual trap of saying Thai girls are ‘easy’. Most Thai girls actually would prefer to date a Thai man – there is actually quite a lot of prejudice against foreigners. But In holiday places like Phuket with a lot of resident Ex Pats there is much less prejudice of a Thai girl seen with foreign men. I was walking down the street with one girl on each arm in Patong Beach and nobody batted an eyelid!
So the women come in all shapes and sizes and colours. Thailand is a large country nearly the size of France and there is quite large ethnic regional variations. In general Asian women do tend to be more petite and feminine than their western cousins. Thai girls are renowned for having tiny cute hands and feet. If she is tall with big hands, she may be a man or Katoey (Transsexual)! Believe me it can be difficult to tell sometimes! They do tend to hang around in packs. Some bar areas tend to attract them.
If you are teenage Thai girl the bright lights of Bangkok or working in the the seaside resorts can seem much better option than staying at home farming. When you hear from friends or blokes that have just been to Bangkok and places like Pattaya, it can sound a bit seedy! What I found was that the people were just getting on with their lives the best they can, just like anywhere!
One thing is fore sure, most Thai women are smart and streetwise, because they have to live on there wits every day. YOU DON’T and you can afford to make choices that they can’t.
Western men seem to lose their brains on holiday. A bit of attention from a cute girl sends them a bit mad!So here is my take on Bar Girls. Again this is my experience and there are good and bad types but be on your guard. It is all very easy going just like the country.
Thai Bar Girls
You are a single guy and a pretty girl starts chatting to you, yes she may even like & even fancy you – but probably she likes your wallet even more! With dozens of men arriving at her bar everyday she can pick and choose. You can go to some bars and be ignored others they don’t leave you alone. If you have ever seen the Film ET – ‘Phone Home’, The Thailand version is ‘Send Money Home’. There are no social benefits or pensions for ordinary people in Thailand, so children help to support their parents by sending money home when they can. Often girls get pregnant at an early age and the parents and grand parents look after the children while she goes away to work.
You are considered a ‘farang’ (Thai slang for white foreigner) ATM cash machine and they will probably not sleep with you for free. So be sure of her and your intentions before proceeding back to your hotel.
If you don’t pay up, they may regard you as a ‘boyfriend’ and the GFE (Girl friend experience) can get VERY expensive! If after a couple of days, if she takes you to the gold jewellery shop you are in trouble! If you do go out with them shopping you will get ‘local’ cheaper prices for most things – leaving more money for you to spend on them! (I got an hour on a Jet Ski with local girl instead of usual 20 minutes)
There should be an academy award for some of these girls because they are superb actresses! “My mothers cow is sick it might die, she can’t afford the vets bills” Etc Etc. You don’t want to end up being one of her ten blokes sending money every month! (Western Union Love) Many a romance has developed from the GFE and sometimes it develops into the WE (wife experience). This may be followed by the DE (divorce experience) and the going home with no money experience.
Remember the song “Will you still love me tomorrow.” As long as you realise it’s a VERY different culture from home, don’t try and fight against it, go with it, enjoy it and you will have a great time. Take usual precautions, if you get my drift!
All girls have to carry an id card with their age on. You really don’t want get ‘involved’ with someone under 18 as it is illegal. Thai prisons are not nice! I will leave it at that.
Most hotels will have safes or deposit boxes where you can leave your passport and valuables. Either lock everything away when expecting a visitor. I have had experience of girls taking cash out of your wallet when asleep! If you really like a girl, leave some money about to test her. Believe me, It is best to find out early on rather than to get really BURNED later on.
Remember just like in the West bars and clubs are probably NOT where you will find a wife or partner. Bar girls can be great for a holiday romance but you will be lucky to find a good wife. Also if you want sex choose one in her twenties. If you want a wife or long term girl friend that will long after you get one in her thirties and forties. The young ones will spend EVERYTHING in your wallet and they are masters at relieving you of your cash BAHT. IMPORTANT! Just because a Thai women works in bar does NOT mean that she will sleep with men for money. I met some great girls that just flirt with the customers, to earn more money from drink sales. In most places the girls work 6 days a week so there day off is important to them.
Thai women have a gift to make you feel special! Enjoy your time in Thailand and be nice to the girls. Nice guys are appreciated. Being a Gentleman and some manners is appreciated by the Thais.
